Marriage

This is us

2.5 weeks into marriage [August 2014]
Nick's Next Door, Los Gatos

Amazing food, by the way.

There were moments when I wondered if we should have started trying for a baby right after our wedding. Let's say it would have taken us the same 2 years of trying, and then deciding on IUI/IVF. Maybe we would have had our first baby by now...

In the end - I wouldn't have changed a thing.

Marriage isn't easy. After the beautiful ring, perfect wedding and most memorable honeymoon, comes reality. Let's talk about finances. Let's talk about your income, how much stock you have, how much can you contribute financially. Let's talk about our parents, siblings, grandparents. What were your expectations of me, as your wife? Talk. Talk. Talk. Let's talk about communication.

[No Shame] Early in our marriage we learned that therapy was our friend. We got through some shit and as painful as that shit was, I wouldn't have had it any other way. We learned to love each other harder, respect each other always, and our marriage can make it through anything. 

These challenges would not have been easier with baby. 

These challenges have only made us stronger.

Now we're more excited than ever to start a family with this foundation.

Our road to fertility - I know I needed to stay positive and connected with my husband. I turned back to therapy after a year or so off. With the ups and downs of trying for a baby, I kept so much emotion in. Being able to talk things through with my therapist has lightened my heart over and over again. It has allowed me to open up clearly to Danny, and he to me. With the stresses of work and live, it's so important for the frequent check ins with my husband and my heart.

How are you feeling? How can I help? We will get there...

My husband is so loving and supportive, I can't imagine going through this with anyone else.

MENTAL STRENGTH IS NOT THE

ABILITY TO STAY OUT OF THE DARKNESS; IT'S THE

ABILITY TO SIT PRESENT

IN THE DARKNESS KNOWING THAT

THE LIGHT WILL SHINE AGAIN.

-Anonymous